Episode 320: Building a Life of 100X Impact with Lloyd Reeb

Episode 320: Building a Life of 100X Impact with Lloyd Reeb

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Episode 320: Building a Life of 100X Impact with Lloyd Reeb

As a leader at the Halftime Institute for over two decades, Lloyd Reeb has guided countless successful entrepreneurs from success to significance. After discovering how to combine profit with purpose in his own real estate business, Lloyd now mentors leaders in finding their calling and creating lasting kingdom impact. In this conversation, he shares his framework for achieving “100X impact” through focus and leverage, while revealing how entrepreneurs can overcome comfort and complexity to build a legacy that truly compounds.

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Justin Forman [00:00:06] Welcome back to the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast. What a gift it is to be with you guys again another January to kickstart another new year. We are thrilled to hear what God has in front of you and the venture that He has you the place in the season that he has un as well as the ways that we get to serve. And so we’re excited about some of the new things that are in store, both with the podcast the Ministry of Faith Driven. Solving the World’s Greatest Problems feature in students and initiative for the next generation of entrepreneurs. There is so, so much in store and so it is a gift to set off this new year with you guys in the house. With us today is a friend, a mentor, Lloyd Reeb, that has been with us both in this journey with half time, but somebody that has spoken into so much of this faith and work conversation for many, many years. Welcome to the podcast.

Lloyd Reeb [00:00:57] Boy Hey Justin, So great to spend some time together.

Justin Forman [00:01:00] It is great to spend time together. What you guys don’t know is this is a fun chance for me to flip the script where I get to ask a little bit more of the questions because so often times I feel like I’m on the other end of it and it’s a delight to do that. But grateful for the advice, the counsel, the coaching that Lloyd offers just along the journey. But it’s fun to flip the script and to get to share a little bit more about your story and just kind of what brings you to this point and the Faith Driven Entrepreneur audience. So to start us off there a little bit, Lloyd, maybe you could tell us a little bit about your journey, your story and how you connect.

Lloyd Reeb [00:01:35] Yeah. You know, I’ve always loved real estate. Justin, I bought my first piece of land when I was 14. My dad was driving us back from the beach, and he said, You know, your kids are probably not going to be able to afford land down at the beach. Prices are going crazy. And just the way I’m wired up, I thought to myself, well, why sit back and wait for prices to go up?

And so the next day I said, okay, dad, I going to save money and, you know, mowing lawns and shoveling snow and would you take me back down to the beach? I’d like to try to buy a piece of land. And he said, you know, would you just be normal? Would you go out and play football? And but this entrepreneurial bug was just in me. And sure enough, he took me down to the beach. I bought five acres of land and he charged me interest. I put some of the money up and charged me interest, but when I walked out onto that piece of land, something inside me just exploded. Justin I can still feel it today. This incredible sense of possibility of what you could build with just some creativity and some initiative and some hard work and grit.

So I kept that. I sold it, got a great education in Montreal at a grade school and started working at TD Bank, got married to Linda 43 years ago. And I realized in the first months working at the bank that I’m an entrepreneur. I am dying inside this big organization. And so I bought 18 acres and we started our first subdivision. And from there I leveraged that money and built retirement communities with a business partner that we still own some of today.

And along the way, I realized this is just in me. I am an entrepreneur. I love seeing opportunities and I love creating sustainable organizations that will tackle those. And then over time, when the Lord blessed our business, I realized, wow, you can build enterprises that have sustainability factor because they have some revenue but are making a lasting impact in this world, either compassionately or in terms of advancing the gospel in some way. So that has been my journey into entrepreneurship. I think from literally age 14 to this very moment, really looking for opportunities where we can build enterprises that advance God’s kingdom.

Justin Forman [00:04:00] You know, Lloyd, one of the things I loved most when you talked about the story of real estate, you talk about building. You talk about the journey of what you’ve been on. You talk about the success. But one of the things I loved when you talked about with you and lenders when there was a certain point of building. That sometimes building things that it adds to the next build, the next project. But there was a point along the way where he said building actually creates freedom. Can you talk us through that journey of where you guys came to as a couple that said, actually there’s a building point where it gives us a chance to focus on some of the other things we want to do?

Lloyd Reeb [00:04:34] Yeah. You know, I sat down when we started developing independent care facilities for seniors, and I asked myself the question, to what end? Like, why are we doing this? Is it just to pay for our family’s expenses? And if we’re successful, what are we trying to accomplish?

And so I wrote out a five year plan in 1987, and I decided that I wanted to create freedom with our buildings, passive income, so that I could explore with maybe a third of my time what the Lord could use with a recovering real estate developer. Maybe it’s just grow more buildings. I mean, we’re in the seniors housing business. We get to take care of people’s lives in very stressful circumstances. We get to take care of lots of grandmas and grandpa and bring love and compassion into very difficult circumstances. So there’s nothing that’s insignificant about taking care of people’s grandpa and grandmas.

And yet I thought, I’m going to have to have some freedom in order to decide what my core calling is. So I wrote out this five year plan, typed it up in a typewriter, put in my drawer and kept checking it once in a while. And along the way, I could see God accomplishing it. One building after another was contributing to our passive income, and it was soon going to be that it would fund our family. Our kids were eight, six and three. I was in my early 30s, so I started reading Operation World Handbook. It’s a guide to pray for every country in the world. Tells you all about each country.

And at the back, I stumbled on a list of 40 different ministry, nonprofits, ministries like World Vision, Focus on the Family, Compassion International. And I thought, well, maybe I should just start by offering my time. So I sent my resume to 40 different ministries. I said, Here’s my background, here’s my resume. My time is free. How can you use me? And I got 39 rejection letters just in, and I still have them in a file over there. In fact, I remember I was doing something with Richard Stearns when he was running World Vision, and I brought the original letter that his h.R. Department sent me saying that they couldn’t use my time for free. 20 years before they said you could have had 20 years of my time for free.

But that was a wake up call for me to realize that there’s no one making a market between talent and business and professional leaders and some of the deepest needs in the world. But along the way, I came home one day and I said to Linda, You know, I’ve been running the numbers and I think our buildings will fund our family. Now, if we live the way we are for live simply, we can do whatever God has for us next. And that was interesting because once you have some freedom. Whether you like it or not, you got to decide how you invest your time.

Now, if you go back to just kind of doing your normal thing, which could be wonderful, you’re doing it on purpose. If you decide to do something else, you’re doing that on purpose. So once you have freedom, you’re forced into a situation where you have to make eye contact with the Lord. Get your unique assignment and go do it. And it’s probably a blend or a portfolio of things, some marketplace things, some maybe non-profits type stuff. But freedom is such an important piece to be able to really push the pause button and look up and ask the Lord, What is my Ephesians 210 calling those works prepared in advance for me to do?

Justin Forman [00:08:02] Why is it you think that more people don’t pause and take advantage of that freedom? Why is it that they pour right back into the thing of what they’re doing that they’re afraid of the pause, the for the quiet.

Lloyd Reeb [00:08:14] Well, for some, I think it’s just the norm in our culture that as your income goes up, your lifestyle goes up. And when your lifestyle goes up, you need to stay on the treadmill and keep generating income. And then you start comparing yourself with other people and you realize, wow, that guy’s got more than me. And so for some people, not everybody, it’s a creep. It’s a slow creep. For some others, it’s just a lack of exposure for how much joy they would have if they were willing to just let go of what they’re holding tightly to and see what adventures God might have for them.

And then a third reason often is a lack of process. They’re not really sure how you stop and deconstruct your life and then put it back into a cohesive plan. And this is one of the things that you guys are working on at factories and movement. Is adding a component to the journey that enables someone to work among peers with a proven process to take life apart and to look under each rock and then put it back together and keep the parts that really are high value and that are contributing to your calling and abandoned some things that are low value that are really just standing in the way of the life Garden vision for you.

Justin Forman [00:09:34] Indeed it is. To echo what you were saying, Lloyd, it starts sometimes with content. There’s some conversation that gets provoked from something you’ve seen or something you’ve read or something you watched. But we know that you don’t watch a video go through a couple of weeks of a course and then suddenly flip everything upside down in the beautiful paradigm and then stick with it. And so I think what you’re speaking to is that deep need of coaching to have that framework so that you can start out with a clear vision, but also keep with it and not just burn out after a couple of years. You know, one of the things I’d love to hear you break down is this idea of coaching. It’s a buzzword that can mean a lot of things. But as parents, we’re kind of going through this phase with our kids where it’s like in the early stages where the cop then we move into a stage where this coach and then suddenly and then later in life we become this counselor that people turn to whenever they need us, but not necessarily maybe at our time in choosing. How would you describe what coaching is? How would you break that down for our audience?

Lloyd Reeb [00:10:34] Well, you know, the fastest swimmer in the world still has a coach, right? And I remember when I had Bob Buescher, who was alive, and he’s the author of Half Time and created lots of different social enterprises that are still making an impact today, long after he’s gone. I noticed that he had a mentor, Peter Drucker. He met with him every quarter and he recorded their conversations. And here he was in his early 60s and Drucker was in his 90s. And I realized that the most talented leaders in the world need someone looking into their life.

And a coach provides a wide array of things. Sometimes it’s mentoring where they’re sharing their life story alongside you and you’re absorbing things. I don’t know what part of me is me and what part of me is Bob you’ve heard after 22 years of that kind of mentoring. Other times he was just simply asking questions. And that’s a big characteristic of coaching is asking open ended questions. But they’re thoughtful questions, you know, to curate a good question question and to ask the right question at the right time takes skill, and yet it brings a lot of clarity.

There are some times that the coaching is discipling. If you’ve been following the Lord for a long time, I came to know the Lord at seven and I’m 63 today and I’ve made lots of mistakes along the way. Sometimes what I’m really doing is discipline. I’m taking the truth of the Bible and helping someone learn how to apply it in their own life. There’s sometimes it’s counseling where you’re asking a question that’s prodding someone to get some healing from the past.

And so a good coach comes alongside you with no agenda other than to help you get clear, get free and get going in alignment with God’s call in your life. But they’ve been trained and equipped and they have the personality to know when to ask a question, when to share a story, when to give you encouragement, when to make an introduction for you, and when to just be quiet and listen. I spend probably 80% of my time listening.

Well, you know, mentoring, I believe, is giving someone the opportunity to work alongside you. And just look deep into your life, look under the hood and see how you’re processing life and to learn from what the Spirit of God has taught you and what others have taught you along the way. And a good mentor takes time to be involved in your life and what they want to know about your spouse. If you’re married, they want to know about your kids. They want to know how you treat your puppy at home. They want to know, like when you guys walked into my home not long ago. That’s a big part of our journey together is just being here, sitting by the fire, talking to Linda, seeing how things work and so much.

I mean, when you think about read the stories of Jesus throughout the Bible, he was walking alongside with guys and just letting them look into his world. The good in his case. But in my case, they get to see good and some things that aren’t so admirable. I was with a younger guy that I’m mentoring on the weekend and we’re talking about learning. And I was saying that two of our grandkids were over here. I take them on Thursday afternoons and we go do these adventures. And I said, So, girls, we’re coming to the end of your fall. Tell me, what are some of the things you’ve been learning?

And I said, Well, you know, it’s good to be learning all the way through life. Grandpa is learning. And they said, Well, what do you mean, grandpa? I said, Yeah, I’ve learned I want to be kinder when you hang out with me. And I’m 83 and not 63. I hope that Grandpa is Kinder and Parker, who’s four, she said, Yeah, because sometimes you’re not kind. Grandpa, I don’t like what Honey gave me. And she held her little chin like this. And she said, yes. Sometimes you say, Look at me, young lady.

And I said, Yeah, that’s kind of trying to teach you obedient and teach you to focus on Grandpa tells you to do something. That’s a mentoring story right there, because there’s so much baked into that that’s not coaching. That’s like, how do you come alongside a seven year old and a four year old as a pure learner without abdicating leadership and open their hearts up and then have these teachable moments? Right. So that’s mentoring. That’s what I was doing with him as I was showing him inside my life. How do you decide to a 17 four year old by sharing something that you could say was a little awkward when she said, because sometimes you’re not kind, grab it.

Justin Forman [00:15:05] When I think about coaching and I think about the framework of timing, like for me, growing up in a Christian home and I talked a little bit about this recently is I believed in the father, the son, and then this retired officer that didn’t speak very often, but yet what I’ve had this great delight and joy of the last ten years is seeing God work and speak in the little things in those moments. What is that like for you as a coach? Doing so much of what you’re doing is the timing of the conversations. How are you led by the Spirit seeking God in those moments to know what’s the right timing to ask that tough question?

Lloyd Reeb [00:15:38] Yeah, well, that of course, just as a journey, right. And it’s a romance. It’s a dance of listening to the spirit of God. In fact, this year, my passwords are all a derivative of here, the spirit of God. Every password that I type in, with a few exceptions that are legacy passwords, I change the password every year around a big area of growth where I’m trying to grow. And that’s a that’s an area.

Now, one way is I got a note from someone today saying thank you for the coaching lunch we had last Thursday. And it was a breakthrough moment for me because and then they told me and so I reverse engineer I see how the Spirit of God prompted me. And then I learn from that. But the next time I wish that 20 years ago, when I was trying to learn to hear the Spirit of God, I didn’t have some mysterious idea in mind of what that was like. But I would just be willing to try and start and then look for those clues along the way. I see how it worked. There’s an irrefutable time where I obviously was prompted by the Spirit of God because I would have never come up with that. Now I can see the results. So sometimes you have to wait a little bit and look and keep a record of where the Spirit of God led you and the impact it had, and then use that as you are experiencing a conversation in the future.


And one thing that my mentor taught me was to keep a book of days. And so just over here, I have 13 binders that are spiral bound. $3 books from CVS Pharmacy, and they start out January 1st as a completely blank book. And then I look for an artifact every day of where the Spirit of God used me to bless someone’s life. And in the last two weeks of December, I would get all those out of a file over there and create the book for 2024. And it’s not a book of look at Lloyd go. It’s a book of look at God go. And I’m just artifact. I’m taking a time to really say thank you and put it in the book with a glue stick or a staple and witness how he spoke through me.

And so it’s little by little. It’s like, how do you know when my wife Linda’s like, she needs a new car? Her car broke down yesterday, and I was disappointed that I didn’t get ahead of the curve. You know, it’s not really old, 7 or 8 years old, but so at lunch today, I was asking her, what do you think would be your favorite car? And then listening to her, I realized she’s telling me what she thinks I want her to buy. Now, how did I learn that through 43 years of listening? And I said, Honey, are you saying that because, you know, I think that’s a cool concern. I mean, she really wants like a forester. You know, it’s not very cool. And you learn by listening. Yeah, right. It’s the same with the spirit of grub. Yeah. 

Justin Forman [00:18:49] Well, Linda and my six year old can go car shopping together, and that could be a fun excerpt for the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast, but we’ll save that one for another day. Hey, one of the things I want to touch base on is one of the very first opportunities for us to connect was through halftime. And there’s such legacy there from Bob in the book. And, you know, one of the things I was struck by that is so many people from a distance hear the tagline. They hear this from success to significance. And I think one of the things that I missed early on is it wasn’t necessary prescribing. You need to go find success to have significance. But when I look back on the hindsight of history, it feels like it was more of it was speaking to the moment of the movement. There were a lot of people that achieved some success. They built some things, but they were kind of going through exactly what you talked about with this idea of like searching for purpose. They’re searching for that next thing. Can you talk about just kind of how you’ve seen the message of halftime evolve over the decades and over the 30 years since? Like, how has that message changed really to kind of some of the things you’re working on today with this social entrepreneur book? 

Lloyd Reeb [00:19:57] Yeah. Well, some of the things that changed were simply Buford and I learned more about how God can use entrepreneurs in that you don’t have to sell your company in order to go make a really meaningful impact in the world. In fact, very often you need a for profit company so that it has an economic engine. And I’m grateful I didn’t sell our business, but I bolted my calling on top of it.

But, you know, 20 years ago, Bob asked me to write a book that’s called From Success to Significance. And his first title suggestion was Have time for the rest of us. Because he was trying to tell his story of having built well. And then one day his administrative assistant came in and shut the door, and she said. I’m watching you as I watch you go through life. I’m scared for you. And he said, what? And she said, Yeah. I think you’re trading priceless things for things that are just merely valuable. And that was a disruption in his world that forced him to start and say, what is all this winning costing me?

So halftime, in that sense of moving from success to significance is more of a remedy than a strategy. If you find yourself in a place where you’ve been trading priceless things for valuable things your whole life and you’re long on cash and short on vision and long on cash and short on purpose, then for goodness sakes, you want to start infusing more meaning and purpose into your success, or you’re going to be disappointed at the end of the day. And it starts at home. It starts with loving your spouse extravagantly, starts with nurturing your kids journey and their faith. It starts with taking care of your health. And then you build purpose and meaning alongside that.

So I would think of it as infusing more significance into your success. But the other part of it is that with the drop in the faith component, particularly in America, but in other parts of the world as well, the nonprofit sector is largely funded by people with strong faith, and that’s on the decline. And yet what’s on the rise is both partners that are building enterprises that have not only compassion, a great commitment impact, but a great commercial impact as well. And they don’t require funding from people who donate to nonprofits. And so there’s this whole demographic sweep now of people building great enterprises that are sustainable and have an economic engine but do a lot of good at scale. 

Justin Forman [00:22:32] So, Lloyd, one of the things I love that when we’ve talked about this deep dive with half time is there is always this challenge, as you said, that people get this framework and suddenly God’s calling them to a different where I love the perspective of what you talk about, even how you personally it just gives you a better purpose in and intentionality of where God had you planted and you said, Hey, let’s bolt this and let’s we listen to what it is that we’re already doing. Where do you think that challenge is today? When you wrote this recent book? What’s the challenge that at the earliest forks of the road where we make the decision to either pursue something for self or pursue something with this redemptive or 100 fold kind of impact? 

Lloyd Reeb [00:23:14] Well, you know, the core is the belief in what is going to give me the best return on life. If you think about yourself as an investor, a chief life officer, investing your life, you have 168 hours a week and you’re either going to live for something that has value for the short term or you live for something that has value for the short term and the long term.

My dad ran a national valuation consulting company and he valued the assets for the city of New York in the mid 70s, which was very complex. He valued the Howard Hughes estate as an expert witness for the IRS. And he taught me that value always has a little tiny component to it. If I told you you could have my classic Mercedes sports car. Justin, you and I drove the other day. 

Justin Forman [00:24:00] Great car. There’s a lot on the line here. This is a really, really big deal. 

Lloyd Reeb [00:24:05] What’s the value of that? Well, it depends. If I said you could have for the weekend or if I said you to have it for the month or if you can have it for good, is there a whole different value? And so at the core, you and I have to decide how am I going to invest my time to get the maximum return? What do I really want at the end of the day? And what I know for sure is that the things that are seen are temporary and the things that are not seen or eternal.

So what I was struck with as a teenager is that phrase that no fool is he who gives what he can keep to gain, what he cannot lose. And I just decided and I encourage every one of us to decide that I’m all in for being a long term investor. I’m going to take the time, talent and treasure I have and invest it in a way that multiplies at 30, 60 or 100 fold.

What I’ve learned about multiplying, I’ve watched how do people live lives that are the soil that produced 100 people. And I think that if I had to do a billboard, Justin, that you could read in three seconds driving by, it gave you everything I’ve learned about building a life that has 100 fold return. Here’s what my billboard would say. It would say focus plus leverage, plus persistence equals 100 x compounding return on life.

And it’s not just 100 x return on life, but your return on life compounds over time, just like your wealth compounds over time. And if you’ve ever experienced or studied how wealth compounds, it’s breathtaking. Now, imagine if you get clear and you focus. So focus. That’s my calling. And it should include your strengths, your passions, what you’re good at, what you care about.

So if you get clear on your purpose, your calling, and then if you leverage that across the right platforms and the right people that you need, and then if you persist, you will get a compound return on life. So at the core, when you start out thinking about how do I invest the rest of my life and how do I infuse more meaning and purpose and joy and impact into my life? The fundamental question to ask is, do I want to be the soil that produced 100 for the Lord would open the door for that.

Now, the disclaimer, of course, is that you and I, we’re the sort of agents in the hand of the Spirit of God, but it’s ultimately the spirit of God who produces the result. And once you’ve decided that you want to be the soil that produced 30, 60 or 100 fold, I mean, why not aim for 100 and ask the Lord to use you? And you have to ask. It’s my calling. And if you’re an entrepreneur, then use your entrepreneurial skills.

If you’re not an entrepreneur and if you don’t see any evidence, you’re an entrepreneur, then join a team where you can make your best contribution. I’ve seen a lot of miserable people trying to do entrepreneurial things that don’t have that unique ability. And there are different kinds of entrepreneurs.

So one of the things that Chris Crane and I did in the book, the social Entrepreneur, is to try to frame up how do you decide that? How do you get clear on your purpose? How do you leverage. And there are chapters on each of those components. But if you just start in on to be a great kingdom minded social entrepreneur and you’re truly not gifted as an entrepreneur, that’s going to be frustrating. If you’re not clear in your calling, then you’re going to get dissipated. You’re going to just spread your time and talent across too many things. And if you don’t know how to create leverage, you’re just going to have to run harder and harder and harder.

But if you can get clear on the kind of entrepreneur you are, know your calling and create leverage, then if you persist over time, you will see compounding return. This is what I see in my life now. 28 years after starting the Halftime Institute with Bob Schieffer, I see results happening that are the result of things I did 15 or 20 years ago, and it’s truly breathtaking. 

Justin Forman [00:28:16] I love the compounding impact, that side of things. We talked about that phrase a lot when we talk about feature in investing and I love the way that you’re leveraging that conversation to impact and seeing the return to that. That’s such a beautiful phrase, and I think it’s something that investors and entrepreneurs alike can get. They can wrap their minds around and they know the wonder of compounding interest. I think to see that played out in the legacy of people’s lives, it certainly shows us that it is the thing worth pursuing, both in the short and the long term, like you described. You know, one of the things I want to hit on before we kind of come to a close is you talked about this idea that not everyone is wired to be an entrepreneur, but Bob and yourself and others are really believing that entrepreneurship is where this leverage begins. And there’s a unique season that we’re in as a world is a country where people are turning towards entrepreneurs from this unique time and season. What are some of the things in the book you talk about four distinct things that make entrepreneurs and great. Can you kind of give us a quick flyover of some of the things that you see in entrepreneurs and the change agents that they are for this time and they see them? 

Lloyd Reeb [00:29:21] Yeah. You know, first of all, let me just say that if someone doesn’t feel like they have entrepreneurial skills, that’s not in any way lesson. It’s different. And those skills, there’s not entrepreneurial skills are essential. And I would never want to be in an enterprise where I wasn’t teamed up with someone who is able to keep the trains running on time and doesn’t like taking big risk.

But, you know, a great entrepreneur is someone that can see opportunities and you have to be able to keep your eye open for where there are gaps in the market that you can fill. They have to be willing to risk and risk your time, risk your money and risk your reputation. And then you need to be able to start without having all the clarity.

I love starting on something and having, you know, 50 or 60% clarity, knowing that I’m going to make mistakes and we’re going to build stuff as we go. And those are all classic characteristics of someone. And if you’re truly an entrepreneur, you will sleep on the floor for the cause because you can see it, you can visualize it and you don’t let up.

And you know, one of the things that happened for me recently was I’d be coaching someone through halftime and I would ask them what was the most fulfilling part of the last part of your career? And they would often say to me, mentoring the young leaders inside my company. So I started asking the question, Have you thought about mentoring people in the next season of your life now that you’re selling the company or leaving your role or whatever? And they would say to me, Well, I’m not sure how to find people to mentor. I don’t feel like I’m equipped to mentor their whole life.

And so Chris Crane and I started something called Ardent Mentoring, called specifically to match seasoned leaders that have entrepreneurial experience with young Christian social entrepreneurs that just need a piece of expertise. Maybe they need technological help. And here’s a guy that was the chief technology officer for PayPal, just is on my lake here is, you know, sitting in the hammock over there in the summer. And and he’s just one task away from helping you with your fintech problem. Right. And for every kind of need you have, we can find somebody that’s sitting on the sideline with that skill and has a kingdom mindset. Would love to help you.

That’s what an entrepreneur does. But then I had to overcome the fear that it might fail, and then I had to put some capital in, and then I had to start recruiting people with a big vision. And now I have to persist. We have 137 mentors. I’m dreaming of a day there. 500. World-Class mentors mentoring 500 of the world’s best Christian social entrepreneurs every single month. And that for the mentor it is the most fulfilling and joyful hour of their month.

So that’s a dream. And what an entrepreneur does is they hang on to that dream and they stick with it until they see it come to pass. So now, you know, embedded in that story are four kinds of leverage. One is I had to create a platform. You can’t really get 100 X return count, create a platform. This is what faith driven movement is for you and for your team. Justin. And then you people, you leverage people in the best sense of the world who the people you need around you to make it happen. So we have more people working at our mentoring now. They’re very talented. They love this and they’re equipped to do it.

And then you need process. So we have a matching process. It’s very rigorous to figure out what someone needs for a mentor and how to find just the right person for them. And then most of all, you have to leverage the power of the spirit of God. That’s what you were talking about earlier this deep listening to what God’s showing you or where he’s leaving you, what you need to stop doing. And those four points of leverage. I haven’t found any other points of leverage other than those for Justin. And maybe some of our listeners will come up with some, but those are the four that we put in this book, The social entrepreneur that will help you get the 100 X return on life that you’re looking for. I love that. 

Justin Forman [00:33:23] I love the balance. You talk about the soil and being that soil, but yet there’s some difference, obviously, that we show that the hand of God is working in our life, but just making yourself available into that. But it’s beautiful to hear the vision in terms of connecting the body of Christ to when you talk about the generations learning from each other, inspiring each other, challenging each other in that when you think about that difference, that person that makes that one X impact for the 100 X impact, where’s the place where people often get caught up the most? What’s the thing that stops people from that exponential vision or impactful return? 

Lloyd Reeb [00:33:57] Well, I think there are kind of three things that are linked together. The first one is complexity. We let our life get so complex and cluttered up with things that are low value, you know, TV, social media, travel, entertainment, things that are just easy but not strategic investments. We let our investments go. I mean, there’s one guy in coaching as 114 K ones. You know, that’s a lot of complexity in your investments.

So to apply this to myself, I have to ask myself every year ruthlessly declutter your life. And so I make a list of everything I commit to and I score it based on hard impact, growth and obligation. And then I cut the bottom 2 or 3 things. The second is. Comfort. Comfort sneaks up on us. And you don’t want to go across town and help somebody that’s poor or suffering or sick or obnoxious. I don’t want to give up my money to help somebody else come to know Jesus. It’s just comfort. So how do I learn to live with less comfort knowing that I’m a long term investor? I’m thinking about a return 100 years from now.

And then the last one that comes with the complexity and comfort is complacency is pretty soon my heart becomes just disconnected. You know, not long ago, we had a chance with a friend of mine to write a meaningful check for two little kids that needed to be adopted in a Christian home. Now, I don’t know if I’ll ever meet those two old geezers, but what I know today is they’re going to bed in a warm bed with a mom and dad that love them and are going to pray with them. And I might have had a new jet ski instead. Like, seriously? Seriously. You think that freaking Jet ski is going to bring me any joy compared to meeting those two little geezers someday in heaven? I mean, get real with your. Be a great investor of your life. Go for broke. And 100 years from now, we’re going to be celebrating together. And if I get that freaking jet ski, it’s going to be in a landfill site in 20 years. 

Justin Forman [00:36:07] Well, Lloyd, it’s always good to spend time together. You know, one of the things that we do at the end of every podcast is we really try to point it to God’s word and scripture that may be coming alive in this unique season. So maybe if you’ve got your 2025 password theme, kind of figure it out, that’s going to remind you of kind of a spiritual vision and reminder there of the year ahead. What’s God speaking to you in the season when you think about the year ahead? 

Lloyd Reeb [00:36:31] You know, there’s a lot because we’ve got four grandchildren and another one on the way and I watch where our culture is going. And so you think about what are the things I can do now to frame up for this little newborn baby that’s coming along in March to be able to thrive in this season when our culture is changing and to be able to be salt and light in a dark background.

And I just think about how the church grew in the year 240 when there were 5000 people dying every day of a disease, and them because Christians showed up and they made a difference and the church just exploded in population. And so, you know, I think of Galatians six, four and five, give careful thought to who you are and the work you’ve been given and sink yourself into it. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of us must do the creative best we can with our own life. And that’s in a message translation. And I have memorized that because it’s disruptive in my thinking. Give careful thought to who you are and the work you’ve been given. Those are two different things. And then don’t dabble in it, so sink yourself into it. 

Justin Forman [00:37:43] Love it. What a great way to finish. Well, I just want to say how I encourage Diane just with the intentionality. There are few people I’ve met that have such intentionality to be a steward of the things that they’ve been entrusted. And when I see the impact that you, Bob and so many others have had on my life, so many others in this movement, it’s truly one of those things where the fruits of that movement, the fruit of those conversations are now blooming. They’re growing, they’re alive and well, and they’re growing on so many different trees around the world, and we are the better for it. And the Kingdom of God is certainly advanced through it. And so we are so grateful for you. It’s a joy to think about ways we might do more together as half time becomes a part of the faith through movement and merging together in that. But thank you for investing the time here to share about just the way that God’s been working in your life. 

Lloyd Reeb [00:38:32] You’re so welcome. Justin. They could care that beautiful family you have, right? Christmas is a great time to rest and you need a great rest. 

Justin Forman [00:38:41] Amen. Amen. Indeed. Well, that’s a great way to finish it. Friends, as you’re listening, this going be our final podcast for 2024. We’ve got some fun things in store when we think about the year ahead, some video, podcasting, some different things we might be doing on location with friends as we think about ways to highlight just a big broad movement of what God is doing. So stay tuned for that. Until then, enjoy a wonderful holiday season with your friends and family rejoicing in the gift that’s been given and the one who has given it to us. So grateful to be with you. We’ll see you again next year. 

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Episode 319: Nona Jones: Why Rejection Makes Better Entrepreneurs

Episode 319: Nona Jones: Why Rejection Makes Better Entrepreneurs

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Episode 319: Nona Jones: Why Rejection Makes Better Entrepreneurs

A statistically improbable success story reveals how a difficult childhood and corporate rejections became stepping stones to purpose. Former Meta global faith partnerships leader Nona Jones shares how entrepreneurs can transform rejection from pain into powerful opportunity. Through candid stories about comparison, identity, and divine redirection, she shows how faith-driven entrepreneurs can build from calling rather than ambition.

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Justin Forman: As welcome back to the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast. It is a gift, as always. It is to be with you and it’s fun to see. This is a time when the movement gathers from far and wide and it is just a gift to see how God works. I think I was saying recently that sometimes I felt like growing up that the Holy Spirit was kind of this retired author. And yet I’ve come to realize that he’s writing bestsellers every day in the way that he works, the way that he connects. It’s just a very, very beautiful thing. And so friend of the movement, partner in the movement in different places and different ways that we’re going to hear about. Nona Jones is here to join us. Nona, welcome to the podcast.

Nona Jones: Hey, thank you so much for having me. I’m honored to be here.

Justin Forman: Yeah, it’s such a gift. We’ve heard from so many different friends of the movement and different people from Ubers and other things, and we’ve heard about the books and we’re going to talk a little bit more about that later. But we love hearing a little bit of a sliver and a slice between just kind of how God works, what’s the winding moments and those turns in the journey. So who are you and where do you come from.

Nona Jones: Man? Okay, so let me start with the way that I describe myself is I am a statistically improbable product of God’s grace. If you’ve ever heard of, there’s an assessment in the social sciences called the Adverse Childhood Experiences Assessment. And what it does is it takes a child’s experience of trauma and it gives the probability that that child will have adverse outcomes in life things like premature death, incarceration, drug addiction, system dependency, etc.. And it’s on a scale of 0 to 10, and a child who scores a three is considered very high risk for adverse outcomes. Well, when I took the assessment, I scored an eight.

And so when I think about the life that I’ve been allowed to live and afforded by God, I am truly a product of his Grace had a pretty tumultuous childhood, a lot of abuse and dysfunction. My father passed away shortly before my second birthday and was raised by a mom who had some mental illness. And despite that, you know, God truly rescued me. I was about the age of 11 when I was first introduced to church and the very first sermon I ever heard the pastor preach that God is a father to the fatherless. And so that kind of changed the trajectory of my life, because before that time, I had been acting out in school. You know, the things that were happening to me at home just made me an angry kid. But after really discovering who I was in Christ, I just kind of changed my behavior because I wanted to make God pleased with me, frankly.

So ended up doing really well in school, graduated from college, entered into corporate America, and within about a year, I was appointed to an executive leadership role with a really large for profit corporation. But it’s a national corporation. And I was about 23, and I think that kind of placed me on a trajectory of corporate leadership because from that point I was either recruited to other organizations to lead various teams, and ultimately I ended up at the company formerly known as Facebook, now known as Metta. I was leading the global faith Partnerships team there, and I was with the company for about, I don’t know, almost six years when I really just got to a place that I wanted to bring everything I had done, everything I had learned, everything I had built, I wanted to bring it to ministry.

And so I reached out to a friend of mine who is the CEO of YouVersion, which makes the Bible app and just kind of said, Hey, if there’s some way that I can serve the mission, listen, I’m all in. I’d love to do it. And so I was able to be on that team for about a year in a leadership role there. The Lord just kind of called me away from that because simultaneously I’ve been, you know, speaking. I travel around the world, I get to speak about business and leadership, and I also talk about my faith pretty openly. And that just got to a place where it was kind of a fork in the road, You know, it’s like I was full time speaking and full time leading a team and you kind of can’t do both and be a wife and a mom.

And so I’m very fortunate. I still get to serve the mission of YouVersion as global ambassador. And right now, I’m actually I think we were just talking about this before hopping on here I am building a new company called Inside Out Leadership, which is going to be focused on helping high capacity women of faith in the marketplace live their life both on purpose and healed. And so I’m really excited about the trajectory my life has taken because now I get to bring everything I am and everything I’ve done to the work of helping women leaders live in purpose.

Justin Forman: I love that. I love how we were talking earlier just about how like seeing the Spirit, seeing Holy Spirit working in our lives and the little winks and those turns in those twist. How have you learned to look for those? Because, I mean, you talk about the jumps in the moments that you’ve had in that journey right there. How have you looked through it and what do you feel like you was saying to you in this last turn?

Nona Jones: Wow. You know, it’s it’s hard to notice what you’re not looking for. And I want to start there. Her because I think sometimes we can get so heads down in the work of building a business or, you know, scaling a team or whatever we’re doing that we can actually miss the working of God in our lives because we’re not looking for it. We’re so focused on what’s immediately in front of us that we may not see, you know, the ram in the bush over there to the left, right.

And so I think that it’s really important to just have a posture of sensitivity to the spirit. One of the things I do every morning is part of my prayer is, Lord, make me aware of your voice and your presence. Like, make me aware of that. And so there will be times where I’ll be in a conversation with somebody about something and they’ll they’ll say something that will cause my spirit to leap inside of me. And I’m like, I need to listen to what they said and I need to be like, very sensitive to what they’re saying. And it has happened that the very thing that they said became a seed that caused me to make a decision that ended up being a blessing. And so I think it’s about just having that posture to really expect the working of the Lord in your day to day. And then you can become sensitive to that. But I think you have to start with that expectation.

Justin Forman: So, man, what a powerful place. I mean, looking for it because entrepreneurs were trained to look for things, right? Were trained in so much else of our life that we’re looking we’re on the hunt. We’re looking for opportunities where we’re keen and we looking for things are broken so that we can fix them. Yes. But why is it that we aren’t looking there? Is it We’re running too fast. Is it we’re looking to achieve and other things? Where do you think that is? That we get off track, that we don’t look there?

Nona Jones: So as you said that what came to me is I think a lot of it is fear, because we become afraid that if we miss an opportunity, that that may be the only opportunity or we have a fear that if we don’t move this fast, that somehow somebody is going to overtake us. And I think we have to remember that the Kingdom of God does not operate by fear. It operates by faith. What does faith mean? Faith means that I place my resources. I place my time, my energy, my talents in the hand of God. And I trust that his omniscience is going to produce what I never could in my own intellect.

And so I do think that we have to counter fear. Whenever that fear rises in you and you start to think, I have to do this thing, because if I don’t, something will happen, right? We have to ask ourselves, do we truly believe that God owns everything? Because if it is true that God owns everything, then we have to remember that we serve the God who spoke into nothing and created everything. And so if you live a life that is defined by fear and is led by fear, you will always miss the voice of God and you will always miss the move of God because you’ll be so focused on what you’re afraid of instead of being able to simply rest in the fact that God is your provider and he’s not going to let you fail. Why? Because you are literally his representative to the earth. And so when you succeed, when you prosper, you actually bring him glory. And so I think you have to just rest in that and have faith in God’s provision.

Justin Forman: And so true. We were in South Africa, a friend that we were talking about, the entrepreneurial wounds that we’re carrying, and just how often times where, you know, they often say, are you running to something or are you running from something else? And I mean, it’s that tension in the entrepreneur. If we cut ourselves open and kind of looked at the day like, I think we would see that oftentimes that like, we’re missing it because we’re so quickly running, running, running, running, that we aren’t seeing what’s right there in front of us. So, I mean, that really drives into this. And you have such a unique perspective of this because God’s opened doors and given you some unique experiences. Is it possible kind of in all of that to really be, you know, knocking down doors, breaking through the force fields, pursuing those things as an entrepreneur and kind of have that balance of being like rooted in your identity? I think in like in the faith and work conversation, like oftentimes people as entrepreneurs, they’ll say this conversation of work life balance makes sense for like people on staff in a company. But man, when you’re blazing trails as an entrepreneur, it’s maybe rhythms, it’s maybe circles, it’s not as neat and is even so, we know it’s possible. But what does it look like to really kind of walk in a place of confidence but also be fueled to kind of chase big things, go after things. What does that balance look like to you?

Nona Jones: Well, I think this gets back to really being able to discern the voice of God, because when you know that God is calling you to something. And let me also make a distinction. You can either be called or you can be driven. Those are two very different orientations when you are called. There is a grace that. It actually enables you to do something that other people probably wouldn’t be able to do. There’s a grace that will sustain you so you’re not going to get burned out. You’re not going to have anxiety. You’re not going to be depressed, like I can tell you.

It’s taking a lot of work to to build my company at the same time. There’s so much grace on it that it’s it’s like I heard it said once that vision is not something that happens while you sleep. It’s something that keeps sleep from you. So when God gives you vision, he’s going to give you the grace to pursue the vision so that you don’t lose everything in the process. And I need to be really clear. Sometimes what’ll happen is we will be so driven that we will sacrifice what really matters in the long term for what’s important in the short term. And then we get overwhelmed. We’re anxious, we’re depressed, we’re discouraged.

But I think about success this way. Success does not have a period and only has commas. So no matter how much you achieve, there’s always going to be someone who’s achieved more. No matter what you do, there’s always going to be someone who has done more. If you win, let’s just say you’re a musician and you win the Grammys this year. Okay, great. You got a Grammy. Guess what? The Grammys are happening next year. And so there’s never going to be a moment where it’s like, my gosh, I can finally rest. So you have to surrender to what you’re called to and what you’re called to. Maybe in the opposite direction from what you’re applauded for.

This is a really hard concept for an entrepreneur to grasp because we tend to go after the thing that we think will give us validation and affirmation. The thing that will make people be like, my gosh, they’re amazing. But it could be that the thing that you’re called to is something that people don’t really care about. So it’s like, Yeah, it’s cool that you’re doing that thing over there, but it’s not bright and shiny. The question is, are you graced to do that? Are you okay with not getting the applause, not getting the celebration, but knowing that you did what God called you to do and you’re making the impact God calls you to make? I think if we don’t get that balance right, we will end up being driven in our identity will become secured to what we’re driven to as opposed to the God who called us. And I think that’s where we start to have some identity challenges.

Justin Forman: So one of the things we’re hitting in is some of the stuff from your book of about comparison. And like, you know, I think we’re all susceptible to that. We’re all, you know, whether whatever the social platform is that you’re on, you’re always looking at something and the gift of connection and the gift of technology. The downside there is that comparison element. But in some ways you look at entrepreneurs from the outside and you say, they’re so confident. They’re so driven, they’ve got this, you know. But they’re always saying something to somebody and it masks that. Do you think like, what’s the key for this entrepreneurial breaking of that comparison? What’s the detox move, if you will? Like what’s that like detox move to kind of get us away from it.

Nona Jones: So in order to share that, let me first be vulnerable. And vulnerability is actually my ministry. Like, I love to really help people understand that you’re not alone in this, because sometimes what keeps us in bondage to comparison is that we’re not even honest about the fact that we do it.

So back in 2020, you know, I had two books that we’re going to be releasing that year. I had a full calendar of speaking engagements, and then the pandemic happened and I started to see events get postponed and canceled. And I remember one day I was about to log on to a video conference for work, and usually in the morning I would go on Instagram. I would kind of respond to comments before I got started with my day. I would never really look at my newsfeed because that’s like that’s just like a rabbit hole that’s going to just suck you in.

So I wouldn’t usually look at it, but that morning I caught a glimpse of my newsfeed and I saw a friend of mine making a post about her being so excited because she was going to be speaking at this virtual women’s conference that normally met in person, but it was going online because of the pandemic. And she was like, It could be tens of thousands of women watching. You got to get registered. And I remember looking at the post and I was like, that’s like really cool. You know? My first thought was, Wow, that sounds like a really great event. Well, I scroll down some more. And another friend of mine made the exact same post. Like she was so excited because she was going to be speaking at it too, and encouraging women to get registered going to be so huge.

And I saw and I was just like, okay, that’s that’s cool. I scroll down a little more and there was another friend making the same post, and then there was another and another and another. And it got to the point that I realized I knew all of the speakers and I knew the event host like all of these people, I knew them. And so I started to click on people’s profiles because I was wondering, I was like, Well, why wasn’t I invited to speak? You know, like the host knows I’m a speaker, like these are my peers. Why wasn’t I invited? So I started clicking on their profiles and I was trying to figure out how many followers do they have in comparison to me. Then I started to click on their websites, you know, Well, where else were they speaking in comparison to me?

And I started to do just all of this, what I call a. Paris and calculus to try to figure out, you know, why her, not me? What did they have that I didn’t have? Why was I not left out? Why wasn’t I chosen? And then in the midst of me asking all of those y questions, I heard the Holy Spirit say, No, no. Why does it matter? And that was a question that, you know, we’ve all had those moments where we’re like, gosh, why wasn’t I chosen? I was. And I selected and I never asked, Why does it matter?

So when the Holy Spirit asked me that, my answer was, well, it matters because this is a huge event and I won’t be speaking at it. And there’s like these tens of thousands of women who will be watching it and I won’t be speaking. And the Holy Spirit said, No, no. Do you only think you matter based on the speaking invitations you receive? And I was like, well, no, you know, like I know I’m fearfully and wonderfully made. I’m a royal priesthood, peculiar people. I start to like, rattle off all the scriptures, you know, before I was formed in the womb, this whole thing. And the Holy Spirit said, No, no, your problem is not what you know in your head. Your problem is what you believe in your heart. And because you do not believe in your heart. What I have said about you, you are insecure.

And that was such a profound revelation for me, because if you would have said to me in 2020, none of your insecure, I would have said, you are lying. Like, look at all I have, look what I’ve done. But in that moment, what I had realized is I was insecure. Because when you think about what it means to be insecure, it means that your identity is secured to an insecure foundation. And I think as leaders, as entrepreneurs, as people who are building things that other people may deem worthy or valuable, we have to be really, really careful that we don’t allow our identity to get secured to their approval or their opinions because people’s opinions change like the current of the sea. And so I think as as entrepreneurs, we just have to know that because we have been called to whatever it is that we’re building, our identity has to be secured to the one who called us. What does he say about us? What does he think about what we’re building? About what we’re doing? Because when you secure your identity to the unchanging evaluation and assessment of God, the same God who said that when you were my enemy, you were worth dying for. Like that. Become such an anchor for our identity that I think the detox is when you really know who you are and you see somebody else who appears to be more successful than you. Instead of taking that as an indictment on my worth, I just celebrate them. Let’s ask them what God is doing for you. That doesn’t take anything for me. Your win is not my loss, your successes, not my failure. Because I’m in my own lane and God has called me to my lane.

Justin Forman: Now, I love the thing when you talk about like the celebration, like because I think whether it’s a detox move or it’s a creative resistance to that, it’s like a force field that if you put it up a little bit, it allows you to just not entertain that rabbit hole of negativity. I think that like celebrating and championing we’re great at a kid’s sports, We’re not great at it when we get older, but like, if we can really find ways to celebrate what God’s doing there, it keeps that stuff from creeping in. So I love one of the things of what you’ve often talked about is and I think that what you’re saying is like, you know, there’s two particular things in content in books that you’ve written about the comparison side, but then this idea of a gift that most entrepreneurs would probably never see it as a gift at first, maybe ten years later, maybe 20 years later. Hindsight gives us some lenses to see it. But this idea of a gift of rejection, what did that mean for you.

Nona Jones: Man? So let me just say that I share the sentiment of everybody. Like, how can you say rejection is a gift? This was not something that I just pulled out of thin air. This was truly a revelation God gave me. And I’ll give you just some of the theological grounding for this. I was in the book of First Samuel chapter 16 one day, and I was just reading and I’ve read it many times. This is like, you know, David and I was reading about David and Goliath. This is actually first Samuel 17, and David said something really interesting, and for some reason it just caught my attention.

So he tells Saul, Hey, you know, let nobody lose heart on account of this uncircumcised Philistine. I’ll go fight him. And Saul is basically like, You can’t fight him. You know, he’s been a warrior since his youth. You’re nothing but a young man. Like there’s no way. And David makes a statement. He says, I have been keeping my father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear would come and take one away, I would attack it. I would kill it, and I would rescue the sheep from its mouth. And then he said it was the hand of the Lord who protected me from the poor, the lion in the poor bear, and the Lord will protect me against this Philistine. Like he will be like one of them, basically.

And when I read that, I thought that was interesting. I was like, So he felt like he could defeat Goliath because he was fighting off lions and bears by himself. But then you go back one chapter, go to first Daniel, 16, and you find that the Prophet Samuel told David’s dad, Jesse, to bring all of his sons to a sacrifice because God told Samuel that he had chosen one of Jesse sons to be the next king. Well, Jesse brings seven of his sons to Samuel. He brings seven and Samuel looks at them and he’s like, The Lord hasn’t chosen any of these. Are these all the sons you have? And then Jesse is like, they’re still the youngest. He’s out in the field tending sheep.

And it was funny because it was like, Well, Samuel said, Bring all of your sons. Seven Got the memo when you were asked, Where was the other one? You knew exactly where he was. So it wasn’t that he wasn’t there because you didn’t know where he was. It’s because he wasn’t invited. And it just so happened that that youngest son was David. And so when I kind of tied the ends together of the story, what I realized was David had been left out in a field by himself, the ten sheep. But that became the training ground for him to ultimately defeat Goliath. And so as I was reading that, I heard the Lord say that rejection is a gift and that you have to change the way that you look at it, because the pain is not a gift, Right? But the pain is just wrapping paper. There’s a gift on the inside. There are lessons that every rejection can teach you about yourself, about others, about God that can ultimately serve your purpose. And so I wrote the book because I just wanted to equip people on how to open the gift so that it ultimately serves your purpose and helps you build the character and resilience that you need to live the purpose for which God created you.

Justin Forman: I love it. I love the tie to like I mean, when I sit here and I think about, you know, being early 40s and you sit there and you think you’re 20s, you’re, you know, you’re charging the gates, you’re just knocking down things, you’re just in fiercely throws. You probably don’t realize the hurt you’re causing yourself or maybe the people around you. And then you get in the 40s and like, I was having this conversation with our men’s group here earlier this week, it’s like at some level, like somewhere life slows down a little bit to just be able to see the thing behind the thing. I think that I’m like, for me personally, just getting to that place now where you’re seeing that thing behind the thing. And I think that at some level it’s like it ties back to that idea of like hearing God whisper earlier. Like when I think about like my 20s, the Holy Spirit was a retired author. Like there’s something in those 20s, the late 20s, where you’re just running so fast that as you said earlier, you needed to look for. It wasn’t looking for things. You start looking, you still doing some things for you. You kind of get into this moment here that I think it comes back to the very thing. And what you’re saying is like if we realized earlier what we know now and that God was speaking to us, he’s always been speaking to us, He’s been in the whispers, He’s been in the big things, the small things, and see the thing behind the thing. It’s just it’s so interesting in the pace of the entrepreneur, those early stages, we’re just running so fast, it’s hard to see it. It’s hard to listen to it.

Nona Jones: Yeah. And I’ve been there. Like you can get so focused again. You get so focused on what’s right in front of you that you can miss what God is doing around you. And so even in the seasons where you do, you move fast, you move quick, we have to make space and it’s something we have to do intentionally. We have to make space for the Lord to show us what is he doing. And that’s also one of the things that I am really trying to do through this idea of the gift of rejection is I’m trying to equip people with a framework that they can use in the middle of rejection.

Like I think many of us can look back on rejection experiences and we can see now that it ultimately served us right. But when you’re in the middle of it, you’re like, why is this happening? I have just really quickly story. So the reason why I’m even a speaker today is because of rejection. I was working for a global company and I wasn’t hired as a spokesperson, but I was doing an internal presentation one day and the communications team saw me give the presentation and they were like, you know, we get invited to do conferences and events all the time. You’re a great speaker. Would you be willing to, you know, become one of the speakers for the company? And I said, you know, sure, I’m happy to help.

Well, I start going out and speaking at conferences and events, and I guess I did a good job because they sent me out to more and more. Well, performance review season comes around and my manager, she said to me, she said, You know, this is not really part of your core work. I need you to focus on your core work. You’re not doing any of the speaking anymore. And I was like, Well, is there something I’m not doing that you need me to do? Because I got an exceeds evaluation. And she was like, No, no, I just need to kind of shut that down so you can focus on your core work.

So I go to the communications director and I’m like, You know, what’s going on? And she said, Well, your manager came to me and said that she wants to be the one speaking for the company, not you. So I was like, I remember being so disheartened by that. I mean, I really was because I had never thought of myself as a spokesperson, but I started to love what I was doing. And so the thing is, though, because I was going out and speaking so much, people were emailing me, inviting me to speak at more events, and I told them, Hey, I can’t speak for the company anymore, but I forward this to the communications team. And they said, No, we want you like, can you just speak as you? And I was like, I don’t think so. I said, But let me ask.

And so I asked my communications colleague and he was like, well, if you don’t use your. Company title or the company name. You can do what you want to do that’s on your own time. And the thing is, when I was speaking on behalf of the company, I couldn’t get paid. So suddenly I’m now speaking as known as Jones, Inc. and I can get paid. And I got to the place where I was making as much in speaking fees as my corporate salary, all because of a door that she closed. That was so painful to me in the moment. But I can look back on it now and I can see how God’s grace and favor actually used that as a redirection into a purpose for me. Because if she hadn’t done that, I would still be speaking for the company today, most likely, you know. But God has used even that to position me for purpose. And that’s one of the gifts I talk about in the book is the gift of rejection. It positions you for purpose, but you have to have eyes to see what God is doing in this situation instead of taking it personally.

Justin Forman: I love that we love a good framework and love that idea of like the position for purpose that the rejection in that position for purpose. I love that. So most people I mean, when you would look at something being a part of you version, being a part of the great work of that, I love the language that you’re sharing is we before we came on, just about how God called you into that and just kind of that analogy. Can you share that with everybody here? Because I think that’s beautiful because sometimes we think like with a human mind and just as you said that like it, surely he’s not call me from here to there. But I love how God was speaking to you in that moment.

Nona Jones: Man. So I was in leadership at the company formerly known as Facebook for about five years. All my fifth anniversary. I went before God and I prayed. I was like, Lord, you know, because the average tenure at what’s now met is like eight months. And so me being there for five years, I was like, you know, o.g basically of there longer than 99% of the company. And I just got to a place where I was like, you know, I’ve done a lot. I’ve learned a lot. I’ve built a lot because I started to feel like unsettled. I did. I felt unsettled. And I said, Lord, whatever you have for me next, I really want it to be ministry. Like, I want to bring everything I’ve done and built and learn to your kingdom explicitly.

Now, I was doing that in kind of an adjacent way, like in a peripheral way, like I would consult with churches and speak at church conferences and all of that. But I was like, No, I really want to do this in explicit way. And so I remember, you know, fast forward, that was August of 2022. Fast forward to November of 2022. Mark sent an email to and I didn’t email, but he sent a calendar invite to all of the executives at the company and invited us to a random meeting. Just it just said meeting with Mark. Like that’s all they said.

And so we’re in the meeting and he says, you know, tomorrow you’re all going to receive an email telling you who on your team is being laid off and had absolutely no idea that that was coming at all. I had not been asked who on my team I would let go like none of that. And so I felt in that meeting, though, I felt a release like I felt in that meeting that God was like, Your time is up here. Because I couldn’t even imagine. I was like, What am I going to tell these people? Because I didn’t know this was coming.

So the next day I spent maybe, gosh, 15, 16 hours just on the phone talking to people. And it was truly one of the worst days of my life. And I’ve had some pretty bad days, but also one of the worst ones because there was no explanation. But that same day I reached out to Bobby at YouVersion and I, I knew because I already knew that I was going to transition away like I knew that. But I was like, okay, if there’s a way for me to serve the U.S. mission, like, let me know whatever that looks like. I’m happy to do it because I believe in what you’re building. And so, yeah, I was very fortunate to get called into that team to be able to support the mission and bring some of the thinking from, you know, big Tech to you version, which was amazing.

And then about, I don’t know, ten months into that role, I was in prayer one day and the Lord, he said, I’ve called you to be a light and dark places. And frankly, my corporate background, I was always bringing Jesus. I was always bringing the gospel into those dark places. And so it’s like a full circle moment where now he’s sending me back into the corporate space. But by equipping women leaders in the corporate space to live out their faith and live on purpose and heal. So it’s been a blessing.

Justin Forman: I love that analogy. There was a conference that we did a couple of years ago with Faith Driven Investor, and they’re a friend of ours. So Jorma that talked about this idea of like, yes, the power of a light in a dark room versus a power of a light in a bright room, a room that’s already bright. And that’s not to say that I mean, it’s a beautiful body of Christ that God calls us, and that different places and different ministries and different things. But I love the visual of that because that visual is very much what every Faith Driven Entrepreneur is doing out there. They’re bringing light to dark rooms. We bounce from room to room. Some are darker than others, but the light that we’re bringing might be oftentimes the only light that is being invited into those spaces anymore. I mean, these days, the business. People are some of the few people still being invited into this room. And we’re not turning to the church’s society and culture in the way that we had in the past. And that visual of bringing light to dark places is a really powerful thing.

Nona Jones: Well, you know what’s happened over this last year. So I’m, you know, serving as a global ambassador, you virgin. So I still get to support the mission in that way. And God has been calling me into spaces that have been quite surprising even to me. So there’s a magazine, national magazine called Black Enterprise, and it’s really for entrepreneurs and C-level executives, predominantly black companies and or black executives. And they invited me to speak at a summit that they have. And they told me they were like, you know, you’re the first preacher that we’ve invited to speak in this space.

And so here I am in this room of like 4000 women executives, and I’m talking about Jesus in a very like a very clear way. You know, I was not couching anything. I was I was talking about Jesus. And then I got invited also to deliver a keynote to a very large national bank. And, you know, in the conversation, I’m talking about Jesus, you know, And so people were coming up to me afterward, even people who are not Christian, but they appreciated what I said because it wasn’t proselytizing, but it was just being honest about my faith. And so I thank God for those moments because you’re able to take the light of Jesus, the light of the Word of God into places where his name isn’t normally mentioned. And to do it in a way that doesn’t offend people. But it plants a seed. And that’s really, I think, the blessing.

Justin Forman: Yeah, I love what you’re saying there. The honesty, the authenticity that you’re bringing when you’re speaking authentically about Jesus. It breaks through. It is that light, the grace. You and I love how you started things off earlier and you said, Hey, before I talk about fear of rejection or the blessing of rejection, like the silver lining that let me confess and be authentic about where I was coming from and what a powerful thing that is in today’s kind of polished world. So as we kind of come to a finish here and love for everybody to know a little bit more about what you’re up to. And I think part of it is because it’s something that we’re going through when we think about Faith driven entrepreneurs ship is oftentimes we’ll see a video that’s very inspirational. We’ll hear something, we’ll see the grit, the story, we’ll get in a group and we’ll go through a course or a study like a Faith Driven Entrepreneur course. But I think one of the things that we’re appreciating is as you go through those journeys, oftentimes you need a good framework and you need this idea of thinking about a coaching and a process to kind of really kind of make this stuff stick. So tell everybody about what you feel like that God’s leading you to next.

Nona Jones: Thank you so much. First of all, this has been such a blessing and a highlight of my day. Right now I am building an organization called Inside Out Leadership. I’ve been a coach for women leaders for many years, but it’s been kind of, I would say, more like ad hoc. But I’m actually building an organization that the explicit mission is to help high capacity women live on purpose and healed. And those two pieces are important because what I have found is that a lot of times executive coaching is really all about how do you do the thing? But I believe we have to get to the place of why do you do the thing before we get to hell.

So, for example, I gave the example earlier about, you know, time management, like we tend to as women leaders, we’re always trying to maximize our time and we’re trying to figure out what’s the system that we use to get the most out of our day. But the question is not how do you manage your time? The question is why do you say yes to things that you know you don’t have the capacity for? What is it that is making you believe that if you say no, that something will go wrong? Like, let’s deal with that because there are some heart and some mind implications. It’s not just about the strategy of time management. It’s also about helping you heal from perfectionism, like helping you heal from the idea that if I don’t say yes, people won’t like me. So that’s what I’m building with Inside Out leadership. I’m just so excited about it. To be able to come alongside of women at all levels. So not even just executive women, but independent contributors, you know, women who just want to get more out of life and they know there’s more potential that they have than they’re living in. So I’m excited about that. And then being able to bring that framework into corporations, which is another kind of extension of this idea of being light and dark places to serve women within businesses and how they can grow both on purpose and healed.

Justin Forman: I love that, ma’am. So beautiful. We still are wrestling with this with the Faith Driven Entrepreneur side of things as a ministries. You know, oftentimes when we talk about discipleship, we talk about clear cut principles of stewardship versus ownership called to create all these different things. And yet we know that the entrepreneurial journey is full of adversity. And people are saying, man, I’m struggling with with cash flow, I’m struggling with my pipeline, I’m struggling with whatever it might be. And I think that we can’t ignore the fact that you said they go hand in hand because when you get about. Two inches deep underneath some of those questions, there is still some other underlying questions of do you trust me? Are you really seeking my approval or are you seeking somebody else’s approval? What that balance is and and I think it’s a bullivant like we’ve got to, as you said, we’ve got to treat the inside. We got to treat the outside. But we have to recognize the relationship between the two of those. And one of them oftentimes is just an entry point into the other conversation.

Nona Jones: That’s absolutely right. Yeah, I think we spend a lot of time on the things that are urgent, but the thing that’s most important is our emotional, mental, spiritual, psychological well-being. And for whatever reason, that’s the part that we say, I’ll get to that later. But that’s the foundation. Like if you are not well inside, if you’re not well inside, it honestly doesn’t matter what you accumulate around you. If there’s a deficit within you, like it becomes a vacuum. And so I believe that when Christ said that I’ve come that you would have life and have it more abundantly. He meant that we would live a life that is fulfilling, that is exciting. And so I feel so bad when I find entrepreneurs who just are constantly discouraged and feeling like a failure. And I’m like, That’s not God’s will for your life. And so my hope is that people will experience the healing that is in, number one, knowing who you are in Christ, but number two, living on purpose. And to me, I think that’s the goal for all of us.

Justin Forman: That’s awesome. Well, one of the traditions we have here that’s going to sound like a softball question about you version, but it’s really a question that we ask all guests is what is a particular verse? Is there a particular passage? Is there a piece of scripture that is coming uniquely alive to you, speaking to you in the season as you start this new venture? Is there something that is really speaking to you?

Nona Jones: I would say Philippians four and six, you know, be anxious for nothing but an everything by prayer and supplication with Thanksgiving. Let your requests be made known to God. And then verse seven says, And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. God helps me to focus on one word in verse six that I had kind of sped over for years because we say like, well, don’t be anxious, just pray. What it says is pray and supplication with Thanksgiving. So what that means is we have to continuously take inventory of the goodness of God in our lives because anxiety is worry about a future that we don’t control. That’s what anxiety is. But Thanksgiving, what Thanksgiving does is it forces you to remember the goodness of God in the past, in the present. And so when you remember the goodness of God, the faithfulness of God in the past and the present, it makes the future worry small. Because you remember that God has been faithful, God has been faithful. And so that’s what activates the peace of God is Thanksgiving. And that’s what I’m focusing on now.

Justin Forman: Gosh, I love that. One of the things we said earlier, it’s a detox move. It’s a resistance. It’s a one of those things that keeps it at bay. And I love it. And gosh, there’s probably 2 or 3 more podcast episodes in that. But we’re going to we’re going to lay in the plain here. But I have a feeling that we’ll do some more of these down the road, but not I So grateful for you, grateful for the way that you are leading, the way that you’re challenging. Just grateful to be on this larger mission together. It’s a gift to have you join us here today.

Nona Jones: This was such a blessing. I’m grateful for you. I’m grateful for the ministry that you have and just the people whose lives are being impacted by the encouragement that’s offered on this platform. So I’m just honored to be a part. Thank you.

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    Episode 325: The Silent Cost of Success (That No One Is Talking About) with Lloyd Reeb

    Episode 325: The Silent Cost of Success (That No One Is Talking About) with Lloyd Reeb

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    Episode 325: The Silent Cost of Success (That No One Is Talking About) with Lloyd Reeb

    Every entrepreneur dreams of the freedom that comes with success, yet Lloyd Reeb discovered a surprising paradox – the very prosperity he worked so hard to achieve was quietly eroding his freedom and purpose. Instead of letting money become his master, he made the counter-cultural choice to design a life where wealth serves his deeper values rather than dictating his choices. His journey reveals that true entrepreneurial freedom might look radically different than what we’ve been conditioned to pursue.

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    Every entrepreneur dreams of the freedom that comes with success, yet Lloyd Reeb discovered a surprising paradox – the very prosperity he worked so hard to achieve was quietly eroding his freedom and purpose. Instead of letting money become his master, he made the counter-cultural choice to design a life where wealth serves his deeper values rather than dictating his choices. His journey reveals that true entrepreneurial freedom might look radically different than what we’ve been conditioned to pursue.  

    Lloyd shares the meaningful artifacts in his office that guide his decisions and keep him grounded in his purpose – from a crystal light bulb gift that reminds him of his unique contribution to a 300-year-old French Bible that represents God’s unchanging wisdom to a wooden “Amazing Grace” plaque honoring William Wilberforce’s 30-year commitment to ending the slave trade.

    Key Highlights:

    • How carrying “long-term metrics” in his wallet for decades has helped Lloyd maintain focus on what truly matters
    • The intentional decision to decouple wealth from lifestyle to break cycles of entitlement
    • Why complexity, comfort, and complacency are the three deadliest enemies to living a purpose-driven life
    • Applying Charlie Munger’s “inversion” approach to identify what would cause you to squander your life
    • The transformative practice of keeping a “Book of Days” to document God’s work in and through your life
    • Why financial success creates freedom for mission rather than just lifestyle expansion
    • Practical ways to declutter your life, reduce complexity, and create space for what matters most

    Quotable Moments:

    • “Build a successful business in the context of focusing on building a successful life.”

    • “It’s an interesting question to ask: What level of lifestyle is in your family’s best interest? That’s different from how much can we afford.”

    • “What would I do if I wanted to squander the rest of my life? I would get my life complicated, comfortable, and let my heart become uncompassionate.”

    • “Money is a great servant, but a terrible master. We wanted to really demote money from mastery to servant.”

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    Episode 324: From Criminal Record to CEO: Cheri Garcia’s Journey of Redemption and Second Chances

    Episode 324: From Criminal Record to CEO: Cheri Garcia’s Journey of Redemption and Second Chances

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    Episode 324: From Criminal Record to CEO: Cheri Garcia’s Journey of Redemption and Second Chances

    In this powerful episode of the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast, host Justin Forman sits down with Cheri Garcia, founder of Cornbread Hustle, a staffing agency that has placed nearly 3,000 people with criminal records into jobs over the past decade.

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    In this powerful episode of the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast, host Justin Forman sits down with Cheri Garcia, founder of Cornbread Hustle, a staffing agency that has placed nearly 3,000 people with criminal records into jobs over the past decade.

    Cheri shares her remarkable journey from selling drugs (including becoming her father’s meth dealer as a teenager) to getting sober, founding a multi-million-dollar company, and helping thousands of formerly incarcerated individuals find meaningful employment and rebuild their lives.

    Key Highlights:

    • Cheri’s early entrepreneurial ventures and her descent into drug addiction and dealing
    • How hitting rock bottom (living out of her car, multiple arrests) led to her eventual path to sobriety
    • The unexpected pivot during COVID that transformed her business from struggling to multi-million dollar success
    • Why achievement and control can be more dangerous addictions than drugs or alcohol
    • The transformative impact of employment stability on former inmates’ lives
    • Practical insights for employers considering second-chance hiring
    • How Cheri’s painful experiences equipped her to connect authentically with others in their brokenness

    Quotable Moments:

    • “I was pouring into other people while filling myself back up with alcohol… I was broken.”
    • “Control is worse than drugs or alcohol because the triggers are more. The triggers are anything from needing to pee while you’re in the middle of talking to somebody at a networking event… It’s all day, every day.”
    • “One in four adults have a criminal record. That’s over 70 million people… and only 5% of HR managers say they actively choose people with criminal records as part of their talent pool.”

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    Episode 323: Why Entrepreneurs Hate Social Media & How AI is Changing Everything with Nils Smith

    Episode 323: Why Entrepreneurs Hate Social Media & How AI is Changing Everything with Nils Smith

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    Episode 323: Why Entrepreneurs Hate Social Media & How AI is Changing Everything with Nils Smith

    In this episode of the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast, host Justin Forman interviews social media expert Nils Smith about why entrepreneurs often resist social media and how artificial intelligence is revolutionizing content creation and engagement strategies.

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    In this episode of the Faith Driven Entrepreneur podcast, host Justin Forman interviews social media expert Nils Smith about why entrepreneurs often resist social media and how artificial intelligence is revolutionizing content creation and engagement strategies.

    Nils shares his journey from youth pastor using AOL Instant Messenger to reach teens, to pioneering online church, to becoming a social media consultant for high-profile ministries.

    Learn why entrepreneurs struggle with social media, how to balance authentic humility with strategic promotion, and which platforms are most effective for different business types.

    This conversation explores how AI is transforming the social media landscape – making it more accessible and efficient for entrepreneurs who previously avoided these platforms. Discover how tools like ChatGPT can serve as personalized marketing consultants and content creators for your business without compromising your values.

    CHAPTERS

    00:00 Introduction and plants in video backgrounds
    01:25 Why entrepreneurs hate social media
    04:52 Authenticity vs. polished content
    09:26 Nils’ journey into social media
    19:28 The importance of audience targeting
    24:00 First 20 seconds rule in content
    35:55 Best platforms for different businesses
    42:19 How AI is revolutionizing social media strategy
    47:03 A Christian approach to technology and AI

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